How To Be Single In New York: 5 Tips to Make Him Notice You

Posted on January 19, 2013 by datingdivausa

I’m Ashley Kaylor, a matchmaker and yes I’m single! Being a single woman in New York is hard.  Dating is difficult, don’t let anyone tell you differently! There are thousands upon thousands of women looking for love in the city, and they’re all competition. A cute guy at a bar is prey, and the women there are like vultures, just waiting for the right time to strike. So, don’t get lost in a crowd that reeks of desperation; get him to notice to you! Here are some easy tips to help get his attention. Approved by Janis Spindel!

1.  Flaunt what you got. If you have great legs, throw on a mini skirt and some heels. I guarantee that it will draw his attention away from the girl who keeps tugging at her 2-sizes too small and ensure that all eyes are on you. If you’ve got a great chest wear something a little low cut. But remember ladies: there is such a thing as too much of a good thing. Keep a little to the imagination.

2. Catch his eye. If you’re in a crowded room it’s important to create an immediate connection with a guy before someone else gets to him. I don’t know how many men have told me they are suckers for beautiful eyes.

3. Smile! Once you’ve got his attention make sure that you can keep it. A smile goes a long way with a guy. He’ll see you as approachable and happy and thus he’ll be more willing to make his way across the room to you. A smile is your best accessory and works as a really big turn on for guys.flirting

4.     Make physical contact. This can be as simple as brushing past him on your way to the bathroom. He’ll be sure to notice you when you’re “accidentally” pressed up against him. If you happen to engage in conversation with him, place your hand on his arm. To much touching is a big no-no though; you will come off as creepy and he’ll never want to date you!

5. Take the hello challenge. It’s as simple as going up to a guy and saying hello. Men love confidence.

In new york it’s very hard to catch the eye of a guy, so follow these tips to stand out. There’s a good chance he wants you to notice him as much as he wants you to notice him.

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Dating Made Easy: Top 3 Conversation Starters To Break the Ice!

Posted on January 18, 2013 by datingdivausa

Ice Breaker #1: Where is the one place you’ve always wanted to travel to? Would you ever relocate there?

This question is not only light hearted and playful, but it can also reveal a lot about a person Are they the type of person that would move to a fast paced environment or somewhere a little more peaceful and quiet?

Most importantly, this answer will reveal where he/she is at in that stage of their life. This could be a deal breaker.  Are they ready to date?man-and-woman-talking-2

 Ice Breaker #2: What’s the best restaurant you’ve ever been to?

Not only will you learn what food they like, but it may also reveal how cultured him/her may be? Is their favorite place to dine at a chain restaurant such as “Olive Gardens” or at a more upscale restaurant like “Bagatelle?” Big Difference! This could create a great foundation if you’re planning on asking him/her on another date! You’ll be one step ahead of the dating game!

Ice Breaker #3: What is the scariest thing you’ve ever done/experienced?

This question can make for an endless and exciting conversation, pending on your dating partner! This subject can help you gauge their adventurous side! Are they the type to jump out of a plan and go bungee jumping? If so, would you be able to join them on this crazy adventure? Or would you be sitting on the sideline watching the action? Use this “ice breaker” as your opportunity to explore their sense of adventure and see if your idea of fun is the same as theirs!

 

 

 

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10 Creative Ideas for the Perfect Date

Posted on July 25, 2012 by datingdivausa

Riding bicycles is a fun date when the weather is nice. You can bring a bagged lunch and set up a picnic. Ride with friends. Make it an all day outing!

A fun place to go on a date is to the Japanese Steakhouses that seat you with other couples. You get to meet others and have lots of fun! It’s entertainment while dining on yummy food!

15-creative-date-ideasBowling is a fun way to start dating. You end up concentrating on the ball instead of yourself. A little flirty competition never hurt anyone!

It’s fun to go to the aquariums in your nearest city. It makes for a great date! You’ll laugh at all the silly animals! Laughter can always break any awkward tension!

Date at Flea Markets…They have wonderful fresh made donuts, popcorn, hotdogs and great buys! You’ll never get bored or hungry for that matter!

Have a cookout at home. You provide half the meal and get your date to bring something. See how well you work together.

Do you both like to paint? Find a beautiful spot and have a paint date; two versions of the same date and an item to bring home with you as a keepsake!

It’s fun to go to the nearest Winery for a date. You can try out several types of wine then discuss between you what kinds you like.

Rent a Kayak for an afternoon date. Try to find a beautiful lake or just skim the ocean or Gulf. The view will create a memorable date just by itself!

Like to dance? There’s a local dance club just about everywhere. Take dancing lessons withyour partner. Physical attraction is almost bound to happen!

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The People Who Will Ruin Your Relationship

Posted on July 17, 2012 by datingdivausa


Everyone has experienced those friends who always seem to take a toll on your dating life. I’ve come to figure out who to watch out for and how to deal with these “friends” of yours so you actually have a relationship to keep.

Your Ex’s Mom
I have girlfriends who refuse to stop chatting over lunch with their ex’s mother. They are still friends on Facebook and still keep in contact with them. Yes, it is great you are capable of keeping a friendship, but that is still ex-territory.

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How would you feel if your partner still communicated with their ex’s family? If this friendship is still around, it is a sign that you are not completely over this person. When they became a past chapter in your life, their family should be as well. This kind of friendship should be put to rest in the nicest way possible, it is inevitably going to jeopardize any dates you have in the future.

The Husband-Hater
There seems to be at least one girl in most groups who doesn’t believe in love. Whether she rolls her eyes whenever you talk about your beau or comments when you want to have a date night instead of go out with the girls. The jealousy seems to kick in now that you have a new person to occupy all your time and confide in.

The negative aspect can take a toll on both your relationship and your friendship. You now can’t turn to her to talk about the tiff you had with your guy, because she’ll try to talk you into thinking maliciously like her. I suggest talking to her about her mind frame when it comes to your partner. Find out the real reason she gets so upset, when you allow her to date whomever she is interested in.

The Crush you’ve had forever
The friend you’ve had a “school-girl crush” on for years AND you’re still friends with. You’ve always wanted to make a move, but never quite acted on it. The fact that you still have that giddy smile on your face whenever you run into them is a huge scare for your current partner.

You need to get rid of this risk. It will only cause fights because as much as you think it is unnoticed, it usually isn’t. If it hasn’t happened yet, and you are happy, don’t put yourself in that position.

The Party Girl
The friend who always wants to go out and let “loose.” This friend is very similar to the Husband Hater above, but doesn’t care too much to voice it. They are all about one night stands, and bad decisions, which with you being in a relationship is a bad move.

Keep the friendship but don’t go crazy, you want your partner to know you are serious about them and they can trust you. Also, don’t try to set them up with any of your friends.

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6 Relationship Signs Of A Cheating Boyfriend

Posted on July 15, 2012 by datingdivausa

6 Relationship Signs Of A Cheating Boyfriend

Cheating in a relationship is never something a couple wants to go through. Even though you should give your boyfriend the benefit of the doubt, you should also not be clueless to his actions. Here are a few tips that should raise a red flag.

Changes in work schedule
Your boyfriend is either constantly  leaving early or coming home late is a first sign that you should question his whereabouts.

He is unavailable a lot.
If you are trying to make plans with your boyfriend during times that you know he should be available, but says he is not, sounds a bit fishy to me!​

Showering at odd times.
This hint may be a little bit odd but can be very uncomfortable as well! If your boyfriend constantly showers after coming home he may be trying to hide the scent of another woman.images

Spends less time with you
This is an obvious hint that your boyfriend it up to no good. He should be wanting to spend all the time he can with you, not with someone else. In addition, if he is hanging out with this guy friends more than usual, you should double check to see if he is there.

Is shady with his cell phone
This is a huge red flag in any relationship. Even though it is unhealthy to constantly question and go through your boyfriends phone, you should definitely keep a lookout if he is more protective than usual with his phone. Some major hints would be deleting his call history or put a passcode on his phone.

Starts asking about how faithful you are
Finally, if he is questioning your faithfulness, you might want to question his as well. A reason why he is questioning your faithfulness is because he realizes how easy his dishonest actions are!

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The Age Old Question: Is it Lust or Love?

Posted on July 10, 2012 by datingdivausa

You feel deeply attracted to another person so much that you want to be with them all the time, but to what do you have in common with them? Your heart says that you are falling in love, but your head is still in question. It is easy to know about physical sex, however describing true love is a challenge.
 
Lust involves infatuation – Sometimes you tend to get attracted to another person’s physical traits. You find your partner irresistible. You begin to imagine what would happen if the two you get really intimate. However, can you imagine the two of you doing anything but sex and romance? If the two of you lack the compatibility on other levels, that “loving feeling” would simply fade away from your body. True love, however, looks beyond appearance.
 
Love never follows a checklist – The things we used to think mattered most for a person we would marry no longer do. You may have insisted before that you could only fall in love with someone with certain qualities such as education, attainment, or behavior; but true love makes all those things irrelevant and immaterial.
 
Feeling in love is unique – True love makes you experience emotions and feelings that you have never felt before. This feeling is unique, different from the usual physical attraction, and most of all special.
 
Love is blind, deaf, and insensitive – People would say you are crazy, but you still defend the person you love, even telling others they do not know” him/her” the way you do. They may see the flaws of a person, but for you these same qualities make your partner the “one.”
 
Love changes you – One notable thing about being in love is not that it remains forever, but that it enables you to do things you have never done before. You quit your job and applied where your partner works, you stand up to your parents, and you hang out with a new set of friends, and so on. Your passion towards that person may not last, but your love will evolve into something deeper, purer, and more meaningful.
 
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Don’t Let a Breakup Control Your Destiny: 8 Dating Rules of the Rebound  

Posted on July 10, 2012 by datingdivausa

1.   Don’t date someone your type. It will be a new dating adventure and eye opening. Plus you won’t find someone who is exactly like your ex.

2.   Jump back in. Don’t sit around sulking day after day, get back out there! Living well is the best revenge

3.   Be Spontaneous. Have a bit of mystery about what you are doing; don’t be predictable in the dating scene.friends-with-benefits-copy
4.   Go to your friends. You’re friends know you best, and can probably set you up with a mutual friend they have with someone else. Networking pays, especially with hot new prospects!

5.   It could get serious. Rebounds don’t always have to be just that. So be open to it turning into something more.

6.   Break the Rules. When on the rebound, set boundaries for yourself.. But also don’t be afraid to disregard what you said that now seems unreasonable.

7.   Go with your gut. If you like them, go for it! Do what feels right.

8.   Keep your faith in love. Everything happens for a reason. There is no such thing as “coincidence.”

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The Secret Guide Into the Minds of Single Men: 10 Facts Girls Wish Men Knew

Posted on July 10, 2012 by datingdivausa

 
Janis Spindel “owns the minds of single men” and has been an incredible mentor to the reveal of what men really do think!
 
1.    Don’t assume PMS is the cause for every bad mood. Sometimes your just that annoying.

2.    If we hang up on you, we want you to call back. Same rule applies for when we storm out, that’s your que to chase us.

3.    We don’t shave our legs every day… so get over it.

4.    “I don’t feel like talking right now” will never be acceptable, nor the last of the conversation.

5.    Asking a girl on Friday for a date on Saturday is completely unacceptable.

6.    If we can’t talk to you during a football game, then don’t try to get our attention during Sex and the City.

7.    “Fine” is never an appropriate response when we ask you how we look.

8.    You did something bad. We might seem cool with it. We’re not.

9.    Don’t ever tell us we’re “crazy” or “overly emotional” or “over reacting”. If you do, be prepared to deal with how “crazy” we can really be.

10. No matter what you say, your ex-girlfriend will always be hated.

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Tempted to Cheat While in a Committed Relationship? 4 Tips On How To Control Your Desire  

Posted on July 10, 2012 by datingdivausa

​Tempted to Cheat While in a Committed Relationship?
4 Tips On How To Control Your Desire
 
Get in touch with your desires
Before you decide that cheating on your partner is a risk worth taking, take a quick pause and get back in touch with your desires. What is it you are looking for when these temptations come along? Or is it a temptation at all? Being in a relationship does not mean that your lust switch will turn off and you will become blind to the rest of the world. If all you are looking for is some fun by admiring other people’s good looks, then go ahead and do so, but keep it at that. Keep in mind that whatever lust or infatuation you will have with people’s looks, will quickly fade away and you will move on, so it would not be the best idea to risk losing a good relationship. Remember: you can look at the menu, you just can’t order.
 
Target the real issue
Research has shown that the majority of the time, cheating takes place because the cheater feels there is something that they are not getting from their relationship. They begin to look for answers outside the relationship, believing that they can fulfill the emptiness from a quick fix of sexual pleasure. Look deep down inside yourself and ask yourself why you are actually considering a cheating experience. Is there something you are looking for that you are not quite getting from your relationship? If this is the case, then you need to face the reality and talk to your partner about it. There is no such thing as a quick fix or answers outside your relationship that will help you understand you or your relationship better. Communication is key.
 
Decide what is more important
What is more important to you? Working with your lover in improving your relationship, so it can be more loving and strong. Or take a quick escape where you will feel farther away from your relationship then when you first started? Sure, the moments in which you are cheating might feel good sexually, but feeling good sexually is something you can achieve much better with your partner, because there will be real emotions, caring, understanding and love involved- which all create much better sex.
 
Turn the situation around
A good way to help you make the right decision would be to turn the situation around. Imagine that instead of you, it is your partner with the temptation to cheat and goes through with it? How would that make you feel? You will be hurt, angry, and resentful and will have a very hard time trusting your partner again. Your relationship will take many steps back instead of growing and moving forward, all because your partner felt he/she could not come to you with their feelings and hot thoughts. So before you go and make that mistake and lose your trust and end a relationship, think about it and make a decision you know is the right one.
 
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Trust in Relationship; 10 Tips on How to Rebuild Trust

Posted on July 10, 2012 by datingdivausa

Every relationship must be built on a strong foundation of trust. However, every relationship has its bumps in the road. Here are a few ways to fix those rough patches. 
 
Love
Make a decision to choose love over fighting by trying to let go of the past. Stop obsessing about the situation which broke the trust between you and your significant other.

Forgive
Everyone makes mistakes so it is imperative to forgive and move on.  

Gain respect
If you are the one in your marriage who lied, cheated, etc. show thatrusting is determination to change your behaviors. That means no more secrets, lies or infidelity. Show that you’re serious about the relationship and will do anything to make it right again.

Set Goals
Together, set specific goals for getting your relationship/marriage back on track. And make sure to FOLLOW through with them!

Be open about your pain
The betrayed must share the pain. The other must acknowledge the hurt caused by the devastating experience of being lied to or cheated on.

Listen 
Listen completely to one another and with your heart, not just your ears. Don’t just hear what they have to say, but understand where they are coming from.

Be honest
Honesty is the best policy! 

Think before you speak
Avoid using words that can trigger conflict. Use non-blaming ‘I’ statements and don’t say always, must, never, or should.

Take responsibility
Nothing is worse than not owning up to your mistakes.  

Be open minded
Be open to seeking help from others, whether it is friend’s, family, or even counseling. It can help to have a better understanding into what caused the trust to be broken.

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